You need a true friend
There are only two people who can tell you the truth about yourself – an enemy who has lost his temper and a friend who loves you dearly. – Antisthenes the Cynic
A Jonathan is a true friend…not a best friend…but a true friend
A Jonathan believes in you when no one else does.
A Jonathan is loyal even when you make it hard to be loyal.
A Jonathan is the first to call in good times or in bad.
A Jonathan gives and gives and wants no payment.
A Jonathan walks with you in all seasons.
The ‘story’ of David and Jonathan can be found is 1 Samuel 14-20. It’s a beautiful story set against the difficult narrative of a failing king, a loyal son and the newly anointed king. As we read, we come across three characteristics of a true friend.
A Jonathan doesn’t ask…’what’s in it for me?’
Jonathan’s friendship with David wasn’t about a seat at the table…he already had that. It wasn’t about connecting with the right people. It wasn’t about ‘networking’.
A Jonathan goes deep.
Jonathan and David’s relationship was built on mutual respect and deep love and affection for each other. There was a vulnerability and depth that allowed for real trust to develop and grow.
A Jonathan is ready to sacrifice.
Sacrifice was not even a question in Jonathan’s mind. In a culture that is motivated by financial success, the ‘cost’ of friendship requires great sacrifice.
Journal Questions:
What do you think it means to ‘strip your soul’ in a relationship?
What are the advantages of having your spouse as your Jonathan? The disadvantages?
What’s the difference between giving yourself to God and giving yourself to another person?
When you listen to yourself talk…how ego-centered in your conversation?
Do you have a Jonathan? If not, how can you change that?